Singleness is a long hike up a steep hill with breathtaking views. Chances are, you’re either on the hike yourself or you know someone who is. Everyone has stories to tell of it. (It’s that kind of hike. It’s that kind of hill.) I’m so grateful for my 34-year ascent up that Beautiful Arduous Hill.… Read More That Beautiful Arduous Hill (reflections on singleness)

I was 31 and it was Christmas Eve when we had The Talk. Everyone thought we were the perfect match (and I’d already given him too much of my heart). So even though I put on a happy face, my heart reeled as he told me we should “just be friends.” We wished each other a merry… Read More When the holidays are hard

It’s the agony and the ecstasy, isn’t it? An amazing godly man shows interest in you, and you want to know if this is “the one.” Like, now. Fear looms on the horizon and the emotional stakes are high. You want to do the right thing, you long to honor the Lord, but what does… Read More Navigating the undefined relationship

Imagine keeping a lion in a small cat-carrier . . . for years. Day after day, night after night, he roars, he eats (a lot). His energy is endless . . . and yet you keep him caged. As a single girl in my thirties who was committed, by God’s grace, to saving sex for… Read More Sex and the Single Girl